I know, that title is horrible right? But, I have been sitting on this same posting in my head for ever and ready to spill the beans. You moms that are correcting other people’s kids or talking about other people’s kids as if they are so horrible…uhmm, often it’s your child that provoked the situation or your child was equally guilty.
Not sure how moms are able to see only the best out of their kids, I see the real side…which is sometimes their wonderful cuteness-selves but sometimes their not-so-ideal-behavior selves. I have multiple examples of someone(s) correcting my whiny son. Yes, he can be whiny and believe me we are working on that, tirelessly, but that doesn’t change the reason why he is whining… maybe someone TOOK his toy or to better express this…snatched his toy and ran. Not sure how a mom can not correct their child for that behavior, turn away from their own child, and turn to my child to correct them for ‘whining’ or ‘it’s okay to share’…really?? WTfreaking….…I want to go off in a cursing spree right now.
I don’t mind equal correction of two kids behavior (as it applies to a mutual conflict) but to miss their child’s contribution and go towards my son (or daughter) is crazy, baffling to me. I am the parent of my kids, if anything I over-correct my kids in a social setting and let the other child’s actions go. It’s not my place to raise someone else’s child but to teach my own (regardless of fault) and if I thought my one line about ‘not doing that’ would alter that child forever in a most positive way, maybe I’d do it more often. But, for now, as parent’s we have operating lanes and need to endeavor to be mindful of when/where to speak to another’s child. Ideally it would be nice for ‘you’ to see in a true eye our own role and child’s behavior. Need me to be clearer: leave mine alone and work on your own.
In the most kind, loving way…moms, take your blinders off…all kids are great and all kids are foolish, your kids are no exception to the rule…get real and more moms will enjoy hanging out with you and more kids will enjoy playing with your kids. It’s funny (in a not so funny way) that these are the same moms that complain about their kids being picked on or so-so doesn’t want to play with them at school….hmmmp, wonder why?! You may be the most delightful lady in town but this category is such a turn off.
Note: I think all loving moms are great and I am selective about addressing things with other moms. We are all different and need to be mindful and caring of each other. We only have each other oftentimes to understand each other and help each other. I love working with moms in my community and engaging with them and their families. So, be kind to one another yet ‘own’ your parenting rights. For those parents that I may encounter that should do this to my kids, believe me, I will not allow this to happen to my children again…
Okay…sorry for anyone I may have offended. Maybe you needed this information, maybe it doesn’t apply to you in the least, either way, I needed to express it. I also understand at times our children are going through personal things that I can’t see or perhaps there is a need to be more patient, I am not referring to special needs or situations but to a mom’s behavior to my children, to other people’s children (especially where there is an active, involved parent).