Do I make my ‘mommy’ role look appealing to my daughter? I wonder how she would define my role or being a mom if she could properly express herself? Those are the questions that came to mind after reading this post from ‘Like a Warm Cup of Coffee’: ‘If you’re not raising your daughters to be homemakers your’re hurting them, Part 1′.
I get this article. I get that most of us didn’t even have great examples ourselves to really see the wonderment of parenting. I get that society seems to negatively label moms- both SAHM’s and working moms. I get that everything in today’s world expresses ‘finding ourselves’ and not being ‘dependent’ on anyone, man or otherwise. It really is a crock of crap. No one is ever really alone- really, think about that. We may limit our face to face interactions, but how often do you see people truly ’self sufficient’? In fact, many good reads talk about the lack of mental competence that stems from isolation- so don’t tell me it’s available to ‘stand alone’ in this world. Also, my child hood was not filled with laughter and strong family bonds- I was so nervous I wouldn’t even be able to love and express my love to my child- whew- thank GOD I learned about God’s love prior to giving birth!
Okay, why do mom’s have a bad label? It must be the adversary. Sorry people, there is an adversary and every action he does is to get us to discredit God’s goodness, get us to turn away from biblical truths and limit our ability to have a life that is beyond wonderful and amazing (all of these can be backed up by a verse!). Why do you think each generation is getting further and further from family values- that is by design. Yet, there is NO darkness in and from God. So if something isn’t right it is NOT God’s fault. The world is ‘fueled’ to get us to turn away from biblical truths which in turn make living this life even that much harder!
Being a mom is a wonderful thing. It’s very godly and it’s very much rewarded (despite the common complaints mom seem to enjoy sharing). Every decision we have made to support the development of our children has been AMAZINGLY rewarded. I quit work when my husband was making peanuts, should I say how much??? Okay, it was about $31,000, no one ‘in their right mind’ would have done that (now, pick your jaw up I still have some more to type). So why did we decide I can quit work? We did it because my mind was NOT RIGHT being away from my daughter. My daughter was kept in great hands, her grand mom, but I was mentally going nuts leaving her. Guess what? Our need has been met in so many wonderful ways that I believe we are actually better off with me not working than with. We would not have known that, had we not taking the leap though. In fact, my husband is now the boss and makes much more than that- – - which was a job he attained one month prior to the birth of our second child. Cool!!
So, in all of this do I make my mommy role look like a role she would enjoy? Being at home is part 1 the second part is actually raising, training and interacting. Sometimes that is hard. I have no training in child care, I have limited resources in activities and I don’t always enjoy playing in finger paints, it feels like snot and I don’t like to get dirty. It is near inevitable that she will get married and most likely have children. What am I doing now so that can embrace that role with the enthusiasm and passion that God would be proud of? There is much to say in Proverbs about a virtuous woman and the duties of such. That is my guide to follow. My other ‘guide’ is to continue to be God’s daughter and learn from Him and the accomplished works of his son, Jesus Christ. In their demonstration of love I can love my family and continue to bring blessings upon our home! My resources are not as limited as it seems when I have all of God’s resources as my fingertips!
We each have to make decisions that are best for our own family. This is my story and my intentions are only to bless and not offend. Feel free to email me if you have any questions, any positive comments will be retained below.
P.S. I was able to do some work from home to supplement our income, the work was hit and miss at times but God always covered!!! Thank you all for your amazing response!
