I WANT another baby- – - please!

That was a fairly good rendition of my husband’s response to my request for baby #2 while still in the maternity wing of the hospital. Am I nuts? Have I lost my mind? Were hormones raging??? Maybe so. Since having my baby girl all those questions are a bit of my current reality, yes I am a little nuts, yes my mind is sometimes lost and sometimes my hormones precede my better judgement. 

Well we did have baby #2 about 3 years later. I can’t say that my reaction was the same so close to his birth, but neither was his entrance to this world (had a few rocky days but all in all he’s amazing, celebrated his one year birthday a few months back). 

For me there was the most amazing depth of awesomeness that was beautiful for me and my heart, it was healing to me, it was beyond what I can find in words to properly describe. Biblically speaking it is a wholeness, or a wholeness in part (because child RAISING is a factor in addition to the ‘labor’), but that is another topic . I could talk for many words about my life changing moment but I want to get on with it- – - 

When do or did you know you are done having children? This has been a topic at my daughter’s dance class and I wanted to pose it to you. It seems there are babies, pregnant people and roaming tots all around so it makes sense kid become the topic of discussion. I began wondering if most women ‘feel’  or ‘know’ or if it’s a decision (pure & simple) or something else when it comes to wanting or not. I have heard some women mention very clearly they have NO interest in another and some speak different from that.  I’d love to know what you think.

When we had baby #1 that was almost one too many for my husband, we made a decision to have a child (nothing emotional behind it). We enjoyed the pregnancy but professed it would be our one and only. So when I started talking about baby #2 so fast- not only did it freak him out but he knew he’d have to give. Can you be the person to deny the love of your life, your life partner, something as ‘big’ as this? Poor fella, what a good sport! It’s hard being a ‘dude’ with a baby around, dads are great dads but that first 18-24 months can be soo hard on them. I appreciate that we had our second! I can’t imagine him not here. I cannot imagine being as in love with both of my children as I am- – - even if I am not perfect I am so thankful I have experienced this type of love- it has given me hope in categories that were only concepts before. [I have to add that I love my husband more for it, it's very selfless on his part to let me take from our time and give to the kids & watching him care and love them is soooooo cool!]

So, are you done? Did you know when you were done? Are you done but wish you weren’t? I’d love to hear your story and input!